Passive No More: 10 Days To Purposeful Living

Losing stinks. We all know that, right? We tell our children (or other people's children) stuff like "You need to be a good loser," or "When you lose, you learn," or "It's just a game!" I teach kids chess in a bi-monthly chess club I started years ago, and I've said a lot of phrases like those. They're all true... technically, but they don't really make losing feel any better.  Losing is disappointing. It hurts. Losing confirms your fears that you're not good enough, or it rattles the self-confidence that said you'd do it this time. Losing confirms your fears that you're not good enough. Losing kills your motivation if you let it. It makes you want to quit trying. Losing stinks. You've probably figured out by now I'm not just talking about chess and kids. I'm talking about you and me, and the fear of losing that can so easily lead to a lifestyle of passivity where we just accept what happens without active response or resistance. About 25 years ago, my brother Lowell taught me how to play chess, and of course