Whistling in the Dark

To have kids or not to have kids. Now THAT is the real question. And its one that has plagued many women for decades, particularly in the modern age where we are constantly being told “we can have it all”. Some of us who bought in - myself included - are trying to cram an awful lot of stuff in before popping out a kid or two, if we pop one out at all. There’s big careers to build, and traveling the world, not to mention enjoying our hard earned money and the freedoms that affords us. We’re endlessly self-reflecting and knuckle deep in analysis, seeking deeper meaning and newly forged paths much different from those of our mothers. We’re prioritizing friendships over men while still enjoying the occasional dalliance and love affair - we’re holding out for a hero - as long as it doesn’t interfere with our professional and spiritual trajectories. It’s not that men aren’t relevant anymore; they absolutely are. It’s just that they’re being forced to share our attention with new and shiny things. Which means more t