Become More Compelling Radio

Do you want to make more friends, build your network, and throw parties that make people say “I can’t WAIT for the next one!”?  My guest Nick Gray is here to show you how!  He’s sharing secrets straight from his book The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. In this episode, you’ll learn: How throwing a cocktail party will expand your network. How to get 90% attendance at your party. When/how to send out reminders. Why guest name tags are crucial. What days of the week to throw a party. (It's not what you think) Why you don’t need chairs at your party. How to gracefully end a party. About Nick: Nick Gray is an investor, entrepreneur, and author. He’s also a 40-year old American man living in Austin, Texas. ​Nick started and sold two successful companies: Flight Display Systemsand Museum Hack. Over 75,000 people have watched his TEDx talk about why he hates most museums. He’s the author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party, a step-by-step handbook that teaches you how to build big relationships by hosting small gatherings.

Note: Video version of this episode is on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/331eiJKvKIc  Look, we’ve ALL been in social situations where we feel a little nervous. Maybe we want to make a good first impression, be more charismatic and charming, or just have a good interaction. In this episode, we’ll look at 5 ways to be charming even when you’re nervous. And we’ll look at none other than the Batman himself, Robert Pattinson. We’ll breakdown specific things he does that you can use next time you want to be less nervous and more charming. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results. AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)  PRIVATE COACHING Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching. MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE: Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.

Note: This episode is on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/SZHYy_ZfnYo    ---   Who else is PUMPED about Wonder Woman 1984?!   I'm just excited for a new movie, even if the local theater is now my living room, and I am now the projectionist.   Wonder Woman has... Super strength. Super speed. A Super lasso. Gal Gadot has a superpower too: super charisma.   In this video, I'll breakdown 5 ways Gal Gadot displays charisma and how you can adapt them for your own personal charisma.   Hop in your invisible jet, grab your lasso of truth and enjoy this episode of Compelling Breakdowns! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

I used to think time travel would be awesome...until I read an 1883 etiquette book.   Life in the 1880s: 17 drinks before breakfast. Waiting for the automobile to be invented. Some light assault of service people. More drinking.   Grab your powdered wig, dust off your top hat, get in your horse and buggy and let’s learn some Victorian-era etiquette! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Have you ever wondered how to not be boring in a conversation? Maybe you really want to be more interesting, but you don't know how, maybe you KNOW deep down that you’re not boring, but you just need some pointers. In part 2 of this series, we're going to cover 4 ways you can be less boring and more interesting in a conversation. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Building the skill of being witty in conversation is super important. When you meet a new person at work, for example, and you're able to crack a joke, it demonstrates that you don't take yourself too seriously, have a good sense of humor, and are socially skilled. All good things! If you've ever wondered how to be witty in conversation, this episode will fix you up! We'll look at three clips of Will Ferrell, and I'll breakdown the witty thing he's doing so that you can start to be more witty and low-key funny in your life. Let's dive in! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

It's been two YEARS since I've done a Q&A show.   That's far too long!   Today, we're going to cover three questions:   1. How can you make conversation with the company CEO in the elevator?   2. Should you skip small talk and jump right to big talk?   3. How can you feel comfortable around new people?   Let's dive in! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Building the SKILL of talking to anyone with confidence is SO important. If you're not able to  communicate with confidence, it'll be more difficult to advance in your career, lead/inspire your team at work, or be confident in a social situation. In this video, I'll show you 5 ways to talk to anyone with confidence. You'll want to stick around till the end of the episode because I'll outline the biggest mistake people make while trying to be confident. Let's dive in!!!! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

If you've ever wondered how to network with people, you're not alone.   When someone says "Networking" it makes me think of American Psycho where a bunch of yuppies sit around comparing business cards.   "MY GOD...IT EVEN HAS A WATERMARK."   Networking doesn't have to feel that way!   And in 2020, most networking is sending a DM or email.   But how can you get noticed (in a good way) and connect with people who could take your business or career to the next level?   In this episode, we'll cover 6 ways you can be better at networking. (I'll even break down a DM that got me on a Zoom call recently.)   Let's dive in!   ---   Links: Quiz: https://go.becomemorecompelling.com/communication-style-quiz/ How to stop people-pleasing: https://youtu.be/fYDJXFisUt8 --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or h

Have you ever wondered how to not be boring in a conversation?   Maybe you really want to be more interesting, but you don't know how, maybe you KNOW deep down that you’re not boring, but you just need some pointers.   This episode is for you.   I'll cover 6 ways you can be less boring and more interesting in conversation.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

How To Be A Great Storyteller. Having the skill of telling a few good stories is a really important people skill. Pulling out a great story can be a fantastic way of entertaining people, providing information or even persuading others.  In this episode, I'm going to break down a story by Bill Hader and walk you through 4 tips on how to tell a great story. You'll be able to use these storytelling tips in your next Zoom meeting for work, or the next time you hang out with people. YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/myH0bny5MOE  --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

In this episode, I'll share 5 tips to help you stop being shy.   I spent YEARS being shy, and it was really hard, because I knew that I had so much that I wanted to contribute in social situations.   These tips will help you break the shyness cycle and be less quiet in your next social interaction.   --- Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Look, if you have a habit of people-pleasing, you probably get requests like ...   "Can you hop on this Zoom Meeting?"   "Hey, can you drive me to the Airport on Friday?"   "Hey, can you petsit my Egyptian Pharaoh Hound? He requires constant fanning with a palm leaf."   People pleasers tend to say "Yes!" too much. And it comes with a cost!   The more you say yes to others, the lest time and energy you have for yourself.   In this episode, I'll walk you through some tips to help you stop people-pleasing.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

"Just fake it until you make it!" This is popular advice-especially if you're trying to improve your people skills. Should you fake it until you make it? The more we take action and do something, the more our identity moves to align with the version of us that does that new thing. Our thoughts FOLLOW our actions. In this episode, I'll walk you through a couple of tips that will help you make it, (and not fake it.) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Should you care what other people think? There’s a lot of advice floating around telling us to not care what other people think. (Sometimes in more...colorful language than that.) I’ve never liked the concept of NGAF. But the reality is, caring less about the outcome of any given social interaction can massively help your people skills. In this episode, I’ll walk you through a couple of exercises that will help you declare “outcome independence” with some help from Tim Ferriss and the ancient Stoics. --- TED talk mentioned: https://tim.blog/2017/05/15/fear-setting/  --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

If you've ever looked around the room and thought...   "I'm an imposter! What am I DOING here?!"   Then you've experienced imposter syndrome.   In this episode, we'll drop-kick imposter syndrome and also teach you how to use your ego as a tool.   ---   People mentioned:   Scott Adams   Platon    ---   Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Most people hesitate socially.   "Should I say this or that?"   "I don't want to rock the boat!"   It's time to get BOLD.   In this episode, we'll talk about how to be socially bold.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

The intent you carry into any social situation matters!   If you're not thinking about the right things, it can make having great social outcomes MUCH harder.   In this episode, we'll talk about social intent and what you can do before your next Zoom meeting, first date, or dinner party. (After COVID-19 quarantines clear)   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Look-real talk: Socially awkward moments happen. For most of us, an awkward moment can ruin a conversation, first date, or am important meeting. Not anymore. In this episode: How to bounce back from awkward moments. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Have you ever been talking to someone and it seems like they already know what they’re going to say, and they’re just waiting for you to stop talking so they can say what they want? I call this the “spring-loaded response trap” and it signals to the other person that you’ve checked out of the conversation. (Not a good look if you want to have better interactions with other people.) Often, this happens because people lock on to something they KNOW they can respond to in conversation. And then they stop listening. If you feel like you may be guilty of this…in this episode, we'll cover what you can do about it. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemore